To meet a faithful girl or woman is the dream of every man. Representatives of the stronger sex invest in this concept and where to look for such girls is not always clear. Let’s try to understand loyalty from the point of view of psychology and tell you what they are – faithful spouses.
Who is she?
Man in evolution has gained a lot, but, unfortunately, has lost a lot. So, now it is not accepted to make a choice once and for all, and it does not matter what it is – about a car, a profession or a life partner. People recognize the very possibility of impermanence, volatility under certain circumstances. The times of sacrifice, when “I” could easily dissolve into “you” (wives of the Decembrist) or “we” (giving up our lives for a great idea, for example, revolution), have been left behind, to the regret of idealists.
Loyalty has changed, but it is still considered one of the main qualities of the best wife and lover in the world. With the progress of mankind, the attitude towards female infidelity in men almost does not change – they are still completely overwhelmed by the certainty that a woman simply must be faithful. After the wave of emancipation and sexual revolution, women discovered a new world for themselves – a world of betrayal.
Sociologists who tried to study loyalty came to the conclusion that about 20% of the fair sex maintain real loyalty to their partners. Up to a quarter of all ladies are cheating on men, and the rest at least once thought about adultery, flirted, kissed on the side, but did not reach sexual intimacy.
Every third woman says that adultery in marriage is unacceptable. Only 5% approve of extramarital affairs. Many believe that anything can happen in life and no one, as they say, is insured. This is a possible thought and even an excuse for infidelity that already exists subconsciously.
What is she – the most loyal girl? She can be a blonde or a brunette, a bore or a mischievous bully.
Loyalty cannot be a specific character trait. Rather, it is something that is formed on a subconscious level – an example of parents, upbringing, religion, one’s own observations.
A faithful girl is usually from a family where there are certain foundations and traditions, but it is not enough to look at relatives to understand whether the girl will be a faithful wife. This is generally quite difficult to understand.
Only one thing is known for certain – the most faithful women are deeply unhappy in life. They are often abandoned. Men first want loyalty to their chosen one, and then they get tired of her, there is no fear of losing their beloved, because it is obvious that she is faithful and is not going anywhere, there is no point in winning her, everything has already been conquered. Faithful women, by their nature, usually grow old and die alone, without finding happiness with people. Psychoanalysts argue that they subconsciously seek suffering, want to be abandoned, unable to do it on their own.
However, loyalty is the greatest value, a diamond in the trash of various human relationships. There is nothing surprising in the fact that everyone tries to find it, without really thinking about what to do with it later.
In which country are women the most loyal?
You can often hear that representatives of certain nationalities are the most faithful or vice versa. So, levity and frivolity are attributed to French women, frigidity and lack of emotionality – to English women, Italian women are passionate, Chechen and Kabardian women are called modest. But the question of loyalty is not as simple as it seems. This is not a feature of temperament or national mentality. Therefore, it is difficult to answer the groom unequivocally from what nationality you need to look for in order to marry a faithful girl.
In every nation there are heroes and villains who have gone down in history. In every nation there are believing and unbelieving women. In those countries where religions are given great importance, where they try to fulfill the commandments, where in the times when a woman could be punished with infidelity or stoning in public, the memory of the family is still strong, which is also present in the upbringing of girls. Thus, submission to her husband, obedience and loyalty distinguish representatives of the Caucasian peoples, Arab women. But there is another problem – guys usually do not appreciate this fact and do not differ in their chastity.
This means that a believing woman can be found in any country, but where there is an Orthodox religious society, this probability is somewhat higher.
Where to find a faithful companion?
The first thing men need to remember is that the women around them have already formed as individuals, redesigning and remaking them for themselves is more expensive and worthwhile, however, this is real violence against a person.
Therefore, the signs of a future faithful husband should be carefully considered before making an offer and taking a friend to the registry office.
Especially it is necessary to assimilate those who hope from any girl to create a faithful companion of life. It will not work. All the ladies for the 18 years they have already been – either good or bad, but completely solid, formed personality.
Where such girls who will be faithful to their lovers live, it is impossible to answer right away. They are everywhere. They are not grown in a greenhouse, they are not cloned in an incubator, and therefore the common myth that you cannot find the right one in a nightclub is just a myth and nothing more. In a nightclub, a girl can come to a reunion meeting, for a friend’s birthday. It is clear that among the regulars of entertainment establishments there are no such ladies – education does not allow.
Experts in the field of psychology recommend paying attention not to bright beauties with bold manners, if the task is to find the right husband, but to more modest females. But especially you need to pay attention to girls, with whom at first it seemed a little boring to communicate. In this case, the man will not overestimate the value of the girl because of fleeting enthusiasm, in this case, the assessment of your qualities will be the most objective.
Signs of future loyalty are found not at the first meeting, but with closer communication. Notice how sincerely she is interested in you. The faithful girl rarely throws tantrums and scenes of jealousy, does not flirt with your friends and does not flirt, does not “like” photos of unfamiliar men in social networks. Usually she has a rather modest profession – educator, tailor, designer, decorator. But there are exceptions, although professional deformity should never be forgotten.
How to check?
If loyalty is the criterion that plays the most important role for you, then the question of how to be convinced of his loyalty will be extremely relevant. It is better to live together before marriage, to observe how his behavior and attitude towards you will change with the start of joint work. His style of relations with his friends and relatives can say a lot.
Believers are faithful in all things and even if they take a kitten from the street, they take full responsibility for it until the last sigh of the feline. Such girls will not approve and will not justify the lady you invent and tell your beloved how your acquaintance cheated. She will never condemn, but she will not justify either.
You cannot become faithful by your decision. They may be initially. It is easier to strictly assess the chances of loyalty than to later check a spouse for adultery, which is often reported in fact.
And at the beginning, I want to give advice to men: if you meet a faithful woman, appreciate her, cherish her. Such individuals are usually very painfully experiencing betrayals and lies, even if they are silent and do not say anything about him.