Ending relationships with a girl is not easy for many. I really want to give up, so as not to hurt my partner’s feelings and at least to somehow relieve our pain and feelings in the situation. And here you are again and again scrolling in your head the possible options for how to inform them of your decision. However, you cannot dare to act. This article will discuss how to break up with a girl.
Is it really necessary to break up?
To begin with, think carefully about your decision, weigh the pros and cons. Perhaps you are driven by a strong short-term drive that arose after an argument or other unpleasant situation. Listen to your feelings and go through the possible consequences of your decision. After all, to restore a broken union, if you still want to return, can be difficult.
The purpose of this article is not to discourage you from breaking up. You can just break off the relationship in a fairly short time, but you will probably have to regret the results of a wrong step taken for a very long time. Especially hard to rebuild your life after the end of a long relationship. And if you live together, you will have to change your life and habits.
Choose for yourself a specific reason (or several reasons) why you want to share with your girlfriend. Analyze the issues that push you to break up the relationship. Are they serious enough to leave a girl you love so much?
Perhaps the only reason for the breakup can only serve as the extinction of feelings. In this case, you have to pretend before the passion actually deceives it. Listen to yourself and try to understand if you are really cold to the one you have spent all this time. Do you want to feel the real loss when it disappears from your life? So, if you have firmly decided to end the relationship, it remains only to choose the method by which you will tell about it.
How is this done?
In general, there is an absolutely universal recipe for how to participate correctly, suitable for all occasions, of course, and there cannot be. Of course, understand that it is important to remember the girl’s feelings. If your decision is not mutual, then the message of a break is likely to cause her crime and other negative emotions. Try to break up correctly, carefully, without causing your pain.
Depending on your girl’s character type and how your communication has developed, choose the most appropriate path to communicate your decision.
Write a letter or message
One option is to express your thoughts on paper or in an email. It is not necessary for the words to be chosen very nicely. The main thing is that the text is honest. But it is important to understand that this should not be a short “answer”. Therefore, it is not at all desirable to go through SMS, having only a short expression. A handwritten letter will make the best impression. After all, these are not dry printed letters. This method still emphasizes that you have been working on your message after all.
If the circumstances do not allow the transfer of a letter or such method in your case is clearly inappropriate, use a personal message on social networks or email. The same rules apply here. The printed message should contain your detailed thoughts.
call
Another option is a phone conversation. You should prepare in advance, pick up the words and outline a general conversation plan. You will most likely be worried and, without preparation, you will not be able to intelligently express your thoughts.
Speak in a quiet and quiet tone. Even if a woman, due to the growing emotions she heard, begins to escalate the situation, the conversation continues extremely politely.
Do not interrupt the conversation first and in particular do not close. Allow the girl to talk, even if it is unpleasant for you. If possible, do not interrupt. After all, you’ve already simplified your task by using your phone to talk rather than meet in person.
In a phone conversation, be sure to tell about the reasons that led you to make such a decision. Don’t limit yourself to the words “we’re breaking up, we decided so.”
Speak in person
For many boys, a personal conversation with a girl on such an unpleasant subject as breaking up a relationship is the most difficult way to break down. Often, young people postpone this difficult conversation, I dare not say in the eyes of their passion about the decision. At the same time, this is probably the most dignified, responsible and courageous way to break.
As for the phone conversation, prepare in advance for a personal meeting. A place to talk is better to choose one that has nothing to do with your couple. This can be a cafe you have never traveled to before, a quiet park or another sparsely populated and quiet place where you will not be disturbed.
Thunder not only to speak, but also to listen. It could be that a part without insults will not work. Therefore, be prepared to listen delicately and delicately to the emotions and demands of your ex-lover. Chances are there won’t be any more tears. Don’t take too long to bring up the topic of the conversation. After the greeting, calmly say that you must speak seriously and you will now say something very important. Tell your decision again and argue tactfully. Do not at this time try to offend the girl with your reproaches. Don’t pay the reasons for her division. Your former passion and so hard at the moment.
After letting the girl talk, she answers the questions she had. Be patient and respect her feelings, because for her such a change of events was very likely very unexpected. By reporting the decomposition, you broke his plans and dreams about your couple. Do not be surprised that this is not perceived with a smile. After the conversation, if the girl doesn’t mind, you can take her home.
But don’t tease the manifestations of attention, characteristic of the couple’s relationship, now you are not a boy or a girl. Say goodbye like a friend.
disappear
A rather ambiguous method of breaking off relationships. In fact, it equals escape. But there are situations where it is necessary to apply such actions. For example, if a girl is useless unnecessarily and continues to make efforts to save the couple. Some guys choose this option if they fear the overly violent reaction of their former passion to the gap.
If you decide to disappear, then you know that in our time it is not so easy. We’ll have to ignore the calls or even change your number. In social media, your girlfriend will need to be blocked so she can’t contact you via private messages. Some problems in this case are common acquaintances and friends. Your passion can also use their help to find the “fugitive” and ask him some questions.
However, most girls with behavior similar to a young man quickly recognize the situation. So, the probability that you will have to vigorously hide from the ex-boyfriend who left is quite small.
But it is worth thinking about what you think yourself will form with a similar act in your abandoned passion, as well as in her friends and relatives.
It “reduces the degree” of relationships gradually
Separation can be relatively painless if the girl herself loses her feelings for you. Some men and men who decide to break up with their girlfriend no longer have any feelings. When the courtship stops, the signs of attention disappear, the guy’s behavior becomes harsh, etc. many girls decide to disperse.
However, this method is quite difficult to implement if you still love your girlfriend. Another disadvantage is that some individuals can be quite patient. Then all your tricks will be wasted, and the passion will not stop hanging on to your relationship.
Such a way to influence a girl is actually a game through which you transfer responsibility for the break to your ex-boyfriend. Think if he’s worthy? Does your girlfriend deserve such behavior?
How can you not do that?
A man should be able to take responsibility for his actions and decisions. Some ways to break up a relationship with a girl have been described here. Which one is right in your situation, it’s up to you. In any case, don’t forget to respect the other person. Especially since the girl once believed you, you repeated your feelings. Don’t reduce this. There are several cruel ways of parting, but we will not describe them in this article.
In any case, each of you will be better off if you leave, keeping a decent impression of each other. If after your couple breaks up you want to stay friends with your ex, consider some tips.
- Don’t go over the blame to break up with her. Don’t blame or criticize your partner during a conversation about the break. It is better to sincerely apologize for the mistakes and unpleasant moments that happened in your relationship because of your fault.
- Do not respond with aggression or emotional flooding to possible incontinence. The negative response to your words is fully justified and natural. Support him with dignity, be calm, gentle, patient. Allow the girl to talk and, if necessary, cry.
- If you live together, don’t drive your ex there. Think about travel options in advance. If you lived in a rented apartment, pay for it 1-2 months in advance and move in yourself. You have already caused the girl mental trauma and possibly beat her for too long (psycho-emotional). Therefore, you do not make life difficult even forced emergency searches of homes.
- You are not part of a loved one through third parties. For example, ask a friend to convey your words about the break. It is very disrespectful and unworthy. Thus, you dedicate to your personal business a third person who learns about the break in front of the girl herself, and this is offensive to say the least. Moreover, you are afraid of escaping from the battlefield, without delighting your ex-boyfriend in a personal conversation and an explanation of the situation.
- If you still decided to leave, after sending SMS, do it tactfully and competently. It is not necessary to use auction nicknames at the beginning of the phrase, for example, “my dear” or “kitten”. It refers to the girl only by name. Then write a short about what you decided to scatter and indicate the reason. Avoid dry monosyllubic phrases such as: “Goodbye forever, never call”, “I leave you, I don’t need you”, etc. Be prepared for a call ride or at least an unworked reply SMS for you, thank you
- Do not ask for your gifts back. Accept them only if her ex wants to return them. Also, don’t throw away donated things. Even if this page in your life is closed forever, you must not uproot those pleasant moments that once united and warmed you.
- After the breakup, don’t deliberately avoid communicating with your ex-girlfriend. When he meets, he behaves naturally as a friend. You don’t constantly remember what happened and don’t get rid of the wound with intrusive questions: “How are you feeling?” If you have friendships, that’s fine. But in any case, the girl herself will tell you what she thinks is necessary.
- If the reason for the separation was another woman, do not go into unnecessary details of the new relationship. It is enough just to talk about the fact that you have feelings for another person.
- After the breakup, stop hurting your ex-boyfriend by intentionally showing him his newfound passion. Unfortunately, some men don’t miss the chance to humiliate their abandoned little girl even more by demonstratively demonstrating a tumultuous and success story.
Respect the feelings of a person who was once close to you, even if you are angry with the former for something. In this situation, you are already in an advantageous position.
