In society, male betrayal is more often discussed, their details are lightened, and sometimes a man is exposed as a real hero, while female adultery is not the most popular topic of discussion. A woman who has betrayed her husband is condemned by society, and these facts rarely become national treasures. Therefore, the question involuntarily arises – who changes partners more often: men or women?
Who are the most frequently changed women?
Do not think that traitors are mostly men. Women also do not remain in debt. This is the conclusion reached by the experts of the Daily Telegraph, who rejected all statistical data. They published their own data obtained through a large-scale anonymous survey. Their results showed that 2 out of 5 women have ever cheated on their husbands or chosen ones, while only 3 out of 10 men decided on adultery.
About half of the women who, on condition of anonymity, confessed to cheating, said that it would happen at a party in the club. A quarter admitted to having an affair with a co-worker, a third admitted that signs of attention from outsiders lead them into an inspired and playful mood, and 10% of unfaithful wives said that this is their life principle, that life is not worth spending on monogamy.
Previously, it was believed that women who are self-sufficient, active and wealthy change. But the latest data from sociologists suggest that female betrayal does not know such a thing as security or social status – housewives change no less than a businesswoman. Up to 90% of traitors admitted that having sex on the side helps them get rid of negative emotional overload.
Which women are prone to betraying their husbands?
disappointed
The lady, married, had her own ideas about a man, built her own expectations and illusions. Family life put everything in its place, and the husband was not such a gentleman, as it seemed in the registry office. A woman who considers herself to be deceived is subconsciously ready to replace her partner. However, she does not always try to destroy the marriage, because the husband can be very convenient and comfortable for a life together.
Loved and tired
If feelings for the spouse are lost and the courage to break off the relationship is not enough, or if there are other reasons to stay married, the need for sensitivity, love experiences, disclosure of sexuality is still there. In this case, adultery often becomes a salvation for the female psyche and most often ends with a stormy story on the verge and the collapse of the existing marriage.
educated
Especially if their level of education is higher than that of the partner. Sooner or later, there is a split in such a pair – there is nothing to talk about. A woman seeks personal growth, and her less educated partner just laughs at her, does not approve of her aspirations. A lover who will support personal growth and development becomes not so much a sexual partner as a true friend. Sex is attached to such adultery on secondary grounds.
bored
A woman whose hour of the day is not scheduled has more time for dating (including on the Internet) than for flirting on the sidelines.
Under the age of 25 and after 40
The first ones are still too frivolous, the other two are already quite understandable and took a little from each of the previous points – they were educated, disappointed, a little bored with the routine and moderately tired.
To have free morals
These are, as a rule, women who have seen a mother change partners, justifying her friends, who easily get involved in changing men, as well as women who had a rich sexual experience before marriage.
Women go to adultery, usually not even for sex. They want to be welcomed, loved, they want to be admired, not to be accepted into the family. They want trembling and passionate feelings, rich emotional experiences, understanding, communication, they want to catch every word from them, to appreciate them.
If a man in the family cannot or does not want to notice this, then there is a high probability that he will become a cheating husband.
What men are not real?
Men are polygamous by nature. Therefore, to demand that only one woman dreams of a man and dreams of reality is not worth it in principle. However, there is not only a natural desire to have a large number of women, but also education, religion, principles, personal character traits. And they are the limiting factor. Psychologists distinguish several main types of men who do not have such a great influence of external factors and, therefore, have the greatest betrayal.
Male child
Outwardly, a man is like a man, but in his heart he remains an eternal child, at best, like a teenager. He is interested in games, is not averse to devoting his free time to friends, often goes in for extreme sports and has a rather respectful attitude towards his wife – like his mother. The more the wife, given the infantilism of her husband, puts up prohibitions, the more the thirty- or forty-year-old rebels rebel and is not averse to finding a girlfriend on interests. But such people are in no hurry to break up the marriage.
Aging beautifully
This category includes 40-year-old men who got married quite early and did not have time to experience all the pleasures of life before marriage. By the age of 40, an understanding comes that if not now, then almost never. They sincerely believe that the wife is not going anywhere, and therefore light flirting on the side is quite acceptable. He does not devote his wife to secrets – he also protects her nerves.
Adventure seeker
Such a man has only one real passion – the passion of adventure. He does not know how to live calmly and quietly, he must definitely find an adventure and tickle his nerves. His motto is “Not a day without adrenaline!” He can be a good husband, but family life quickly gets bored, it becomes fresh for him. Treason needs him as a remedy for boredom. However, he does not look for easy ways and often gets into very risky novels – for example, with a friend of his wife or his friend’s wife, so that it is more dangerous and interesting.
Self-sufficient and narcissistic
These people give birth to a wife in order to officially show everyone – he is the owner, the winner, but he does not depend on his husband at all. Moreover, she is his property, and therefore such people, with new victories on the love front, do not hide this from their friends and do not even hide from their legitimate wife. In principle, they do not see anything wrong with their behavior. But betrayal by spouses will not accept and will not be tolerated.
pragmatist
Usually, the marriage of such a man has existed for a long time only by habit or coincidence. Passion and love are not, the wife is not desirable. But divorce is upsetting and sometimes unprofitable for both him and his wife. Therefore, people live, but calling a family is very difficult. Such a man brightens up the blackness of gray everyday life with an adulterer. A man cannot even have a mistress, he does not feel guilty before his wife, and therefore does not hide much, his wife guesses a lot, but prefers to remain silent.
Doubtful Redeemer
These people are tormented by doubts. The wife is good, but suddenly there are better women on her side? He checks, searches, but he is too cowardly to declare it right, and therefore he lies and leaves. In his heart he hopes that his wife will not one day stand and leave alone.
Victim of manipulation
Such men are usually married to very authoritarian and powerful women, who even manage to make sex a tool for managing their husband – they still have to be earned. Treason for them only satisfaction of their sexual desires, relaxation. Usually they do not leave the family.
Adultery statistics
The statistics of infidelity in Russia are quite curious and may interest both representatives of the stronger sex and beautiful ladies:
- approximately 62% of men who change their wives prefer to date married women, only 10% of men who are married risk starting a relationship with single girls;
- women’s betrayals are more permanent – up to 45% of married women have a constant lover and are not inclined to change him for another, and only 19% of men who cheat can boast of the same consistency;
- up to 75% of men and up to 24% of women systematically change their wives and husbands or have changed them at least once;
- dissatisfaction with sex life causes divorce in 9% of men and 13% of women;
- the desire to experience new, acute feelings is inherent in 14% of men and 7% of women;
- new true love – 7% of men and over 25% of women;
- ncreased self-esteem, desire to assert oneself – 14% of men and only 4% of women;
- long separation, forced separate life leads to infidelity in 12% of men and 8% of women;
- from boredom and routine to new relationships, 3% of men and 7% of women “escape”;
- accidental labor is obtained (under the influence of alcohol, at a party, corporate party, etc.) in 14% of men and 7% of women;
- betrayal in retaliation against the wrong partner – mostly female reaction: this accounts for 11% of women and only 0.5% of men;
- most often 30% of men and almost as many women change with work colleagues;
- at the resort, women are more likely to change – this is what 34% of traffickers answered, while only 19% of men allowed themselves adultery on vacation;
- with neighbors and family friends, it changes up to 10% of women and about 5% of men.
To complete the picture, it is worth informing you that the most common betrayal occurs in the home of one of the lovers. About a third of lovers prefer to go to the country or stay with friends. Only 10% rent an apartment or a hotel room.
Who is more capable of betrayal: girls or boys?
If you rely on statistics, then people change more often, but girls do not stand aside. They are capable of betrayal, because the circumstances that can push this can be very different.
It is also important for the couple to invest in the concept of betrayal. From the point of view of psychologists, there is no such thing as physical or moral betrayal – no stopping. From the moment one of the partners allows himself to think about a possible relationship with someone from his side, he already becomes a traitor. And such thoughts, even in happy marriages, can occur to partners. This does not mean that they are in a hurry to change. Do not forget about personal experience, the nature of the person, his upbringing and beliefs.
But in families where understanding, mutual assistance, trust prevail, where spouses have common interests and know how to communicate with each other on any topic, betrayals occur less frequently. Everything is important – the quantity and quality of sex, the presence of common children, common hobbies, the way of spending joint weekends, family traditions and signs of mutual attention.
The probability of betrayal in families where there is no understanding, where they do not know how to talk and solve common problems together, where partners do not feel supported, ignore each other’s needs. In this case, the probability of male adultery will always be somewhat higher than the probability of female, but mutual betrayal is not excluded.
For information on why we change, who is more likely to be male or female, how to forgive, see the following video.